Reality

I haven't written on here for awhile. A lot has changed since then. For one thing, I met a pretty amazing person who is the reason why I'm even bothering to make this post, if you're reading this; Hey! :) haha okay, moving on now

What's incredibly irritating to me is how sometimes, even if it's not in our best interest, we are forced to face reality. Sometimes bad things happen to people who don't deserve it. What are we supposed to do when you're faced with a problem like that?

Firstly, surrond yourself with people who make you happy. End of story. There's nothing worse than being in a bad mood and being around people who don't make you feel any better. Whether that's one person or several, make sure you're with them. They only have you're best interest and all they will do is try to make you smile.

Is step one done? Yeah? Then keep reading.

Grief can be described in 4 stages:

1. Denial — “This isn’t happening to me!” or “There must be a mistake" 
Denial is first and always temporary.Oh the joys of stunted emotional growth! Denial entails refusal to accept the reality of the situation, facts and/or information. How do we get through it? We accept things as they are, whether we like them or not. Have you accepted reality? Keep reading if you have.

2. Anger — “Unfair!” and “Not cool!”
Anger can present in many different ways. Self-loathing, outward hostility, and watch out if you’re close to someone in this stage – you’re in the splash zone. Bring your poncho and remember to try and stay nonjudgmental during this trying time. Usually when people are angry, they avoid people, hoping that the problem they're facing will be avoided as well. That is not good. This is when the role of surrounding yourself with good people becomes handy. FIND SOMEONE TO RANT TO! Let out every single last bit of your feelings until you literally cannot find anymore angry to consume yourself in.

3. Depression — “What’s the point… in anything?”
During this stage, the true nature of the situation becomes apparent. This tragedy is going to befall us whether we like it or not. Usually, we don’t like it – because of this sulking, crying, screaming and other Lady Macbeth-isms become apparent. Live in this space baby. Eat those bean and cheese burritos. Order those two large pizzas. Revel in it. This, in fact is a good thing. It shows acceptance of the situation and emotional reactions are normal to the processing of life changes. Live it, learn it, love it. Then take a much-needed shower.
Being upset is a good thing. You will endure it, I promise you. You'll learn so much about yourself and end up being a better person because of it. Again--- find friends to let out all your sadness to. Call up someone to eat that pizza with you, watch that movie and play that video game. It's so much easier when you have someone who is willing to be there by your side.

4. . Acceptance — “I think I can, I think I can,” and “I am empowered. I am okay.”
Ahhh, acceptance. It presents differently for everyone, but you’re finally ready to get back on the horse. You’ve grown. I believe in you.